Sexual Abuse
How would you feel? Abused by a relative
and left? Sadly sexual abuse is an ongoing topic that is arising
in our society today.
My very dear friend, who cannot be named, opened up her heart
to deliver us with an insight of a traumatic period in her life.
What can I say? I was only 12 years old;
into sport, swimming, very shy, had a low self-esteem. Trying
hard to fit into school.
My Family? Well my mum, she's very independent, and we don't
really talk as much as we would have liked, but...It worked,
and I love her. My dad, well we never lived together and a bond
never formed, but we met now and again (comfortably.)
On May 17th 1992, I was at my dad's house (a normal routine)
sleeping. I felt a sweaty body right beside me, he told me to
take off my clothes, shut up and hurry up about it!
I slipped them off, as I didn't want the bruises I had once tried
to disguise...so hard! He started biting my nipples...
20-minute break as the experience made her very emotional
Cont.
...He made them bleed.
F#*%! Why is it so hard to get this S*#?!
Out!
Yeah straight up good old .....Was raped by her dad!
He told me I was the ugliest thing he had ever seen, and laughed
at me.That was right before he threw candle wax over me, and
told me to open wide like my mum. I did.
He shoved himself inside me, as I felt the blood that I saw later
on the white sheets. My innocence and purity had gone.
He then asked me to suck him.
"Suck me you Slag" I recall.
When I declined, all I remember was darkness, I guess I blacked
out!
I cried for a long time and still cry till
this day! The memories, the thoughts, I still fear him! The semen
inside me makes me feel sick and worthless.
Yes, I did tell my mum who denied that that sort of incident
could happen.
Now at sixteen, I have only recently spoke
to the police about it, I only now had the courage! Dumb innit!
They basically said it was too late for a formal investigation
to take place.
If any ones out there, take my advise, speak up cause you'll
regret it! But you're not alone!
The worst part is.....My sister recently told me my dad had done the same thing to her... Please learn from my mistakes!
What is Sexual Harassment?
Well to sum it up, Sexual Harassment can
be defined as unwelcomed sexual behaviour, and requests for sexual
favours of verbal or physical conduct.
Sexual Harassment can occur to anyone, from low class to high
class people. The most common and frequent type of sexual harassment
involves the male harassing the female, but it can happen the
other way.
Myths and Realities
Here are a couple of Myths and Realities which are commonly associated with sexual harassment.
Myth 1: Only men can sexually harass women.
Reality: Both sexes are capable of sexual harassment, both physically
and verbally.
Myth 2: One of the reasons for sexual is
bad intent.
Reality: A man's behaviour is sometimes viewed as harmless by
his own opinion, but can be offensive to women.
Myth 3: The way a woman dresses, looks
or behaves provokes most cases of sexual harassment.
Reality: The way a woman dresses, looks or behaves is no reason
for sexual harassment. Women will sometimes dress differently
for a sort of promotion.
Myth 4: Illegal conduct must be sexual
.
Reality: Sexual harassment is usually gender-based and can be
physical or verbal.
Myth 5: Professional people do not take
part in sexual harassment.
Reality: Sexual harassment can occur to anyone no matter what
age/gender/social or class.
Facts!
Fact: People are usually sexually harassed
because they are seen as vulnerable and/or a threat to other
members in the workplace.
Fact: Sexual harassment can occur in all social and class groups.
Fact: Requesting or demanding sexual favours in exchange for
employment or academic opportunities is sexual harassment.